You know that moment when you finally muster up the courage to ask for help, and instead of the compassion you were hoping for, someone hits you with, "You’re strong"? Yeah, that’s the moment where your stomach drops faster than your phone when you’re holding a hot cup of coffee. It’s like, “Yes, I’m strong, but right now I’m also teetering on the edge of a total meltdown, so a little less cheerleading and a little more actual help would be nice.” But do the words come out? Nope. We nod, smile, and feel more alone than before, like we’ve just been handed a participation trophy at a marathon we didn’t sign up for.
Here's the thing: when someone tells you you're strong during a crisis, it feels like an unspoken rule that you’re not supposed to ask for help. Like being strong means handling everything yourself, even when you're dragging the emotional equivalent of a wardrobe packed with unresolved traumas. Sure, I know my strengths, but there are days when they feel like those jeans you know you shouldn't have tried on after lunch – too tight, too much, and not helping at all.
We all hit moments when our strength takes a vacation without telling us. And that's okay. Life isn’t about ploughing through like an emotional bulldozer all the time. Sometimes it's about realising you've got a slow puncture and you need a pit stop. It took me years to figure this out, and not without a few bruises along the way.
Honestly, making tough choices about facing yourself is harder than just living on autopilot, avoiding the mess. It's like looking in the mirror after a week of late nights and no skincare – it’s rough, but you have to face it. The real kicker? When I finally decided to meet myself head-on, I realised that sometimes pain is less terrifying than pretending everything's fine. Who knew?
Once I started paying attention to how my own shadow showed up in my daily life – like that flash of jealousy or anger when someone sets boundaries that I don’t have – things shifted. It's like opening the kitchen bin you’ve been avoiding for days. You know it’s gross, but once you deal with it, life smells a lot better. And that’s the thing: dealing with your internal clutter is a lot like that—clean it out before it overflows.
And then there’s the spiritual side. Oh, the journey of self-awareness these days is like navigating a crowded market with every Coach, Counselor, and Guru peddling the secret to your best life. Sure, some of them know their stuff, but many will have you chasing your tail in circles, expecting an instant glow-up after one session. Sorry to burst the bubble, but that's about as likely as waking up fluent in French after watching Ratatouille.
No, the real work is more like rummaging through your old emotional storage boxes – dusty, heavy, and full of surprises you’ve probably been avoiding. It’s not glamorous, but it’s necessary. A spiritual healing journey is like clearing out an overstuffed bin. Leave it too long, and you’ll find yourself in a mess.
Speaking of which, let me tell you about a time when I got a little too curious with a healer. It was a dark time, and I thought, “Sure, why not reach out to the spirit guides?” Things were going fine – I connected with my ancestors and even had a chat with my guide (my Old Man, go figure). I felt a little off afterward, but hey, nothing a good grounding exercise couldn't fix.
Then, a few days later, I bump into the healer and her husband. And guess what? The husband casually mentions he “visited” me in my sleep the night before. Excuse me, what now? He seemed genuinely upset that he couldn’t "get inside my head" while I was asleep. Yeah. You heard that right. Apparently, he wanted to poke around my subconscious while I was snoozing away. That was my cue to peace out faster than a bad date. Boundaries, people. Boundaries.
Moral of the story: trust your instincts, and don’t let anyone—whether healer, guide, or well-meaning friend—violate your boundaries. The spiritual world is wide open, but it’s not without its weirdos. Stay grounded, and when in doubt, ask the tough questions. If someone’s credentials are shakier than a sandcastle in high tide, it’s time to move along.
Remember, whether you're clearing out your emotional bin or dipping your toes into the spiritual, it’s your space. Protect it. Do the research. Ask the hard questions. And most importantly, if something feels off, trust yourself. Because at the end of the day, no matter how much we grow, transform, or heal, we’re still allowed to ask for help – and we deserve to feel safe while we do.
Stay strong, but never hesitate to say, “Hey, I need a hand over here!”
Liz Wilde
Embrace Your Power
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